Latina Lover 101
South America is one of the most popular destinations when it comes to looking for international love. No one can blame you. I mean, those women are something else with their perfect combination of beauty, brains, and awesome personalities.
So if you want to date a Latina woman, you are no doubt asking – how to get a Latina to fall in love with you?
Well, the Latina dating culture is pretty diverse, but we tried to narrow it down without sounding too stereotypical of all the Latinas coming from 30+ countries and territories!
Here are our top tips for dating Latina women.
How to make a Latina fall for you
Although most Latina girls are pretty open-minded, friendly, and approachable, they are also very picky and can be both hard to impress and hard to keep.
So, before we get into details of what it’s like to date a Latina woman, we’ll talk about a few things you need to know before you can get a Latina to fall in love with you in the first place.
With our tips below, you will have all the ammo you need to win the battle for her love.
These girls are very unconventional in everything, from how they act to what they like. It is really hard to fix any Latina into a specific box as this term encompasses women from an entire continent. This means you have to keep an open mind as you approach her!
Be ready for anything, and you will not be caught off guard by something like a career woman who loves household duties.
Being open-minded also means being ready to try new things. Latin girls are fearless and curious and love going into new adventures with their boyfriends. So, you better jump – not step – out of your comfort zone.
Don’t expect her to cook for you all the time
Latin America is rich with diverse and innovative national cuisines. Food plays an important role in LatinX tradition as it’s what usually holds the family together. It’s almost impossible to celebrate a significant event without mouth-watering recipes.
Having said that, Latinas love food, and they love to cook too. But for them, this is more of a hobby and appreciation for homemade meals and not a license to be domesticated.
Don’t be surprised if she orders in or asks you to cook instead. If she offers to cook for you, appreciate it, and if she doesn’t, don’t push it. It’s all about going with the flow.
Try to be a gentleman
Latinas hate to be objectified because, unfortunately, they have seen a lot of it! So, if you are trying to win her over, a mix of a perfect gentleman with just a hint of macho would be the ideal recipe.
Open doors for her, help her put the jacket on, pull out a chair, be kind and respectful, but also stay well-groomed and always smelling heavenly.
Who said chivalry was dead? Trust us, it’s the easiest way to attract a Hispanic woman!
Make an effort to understand her culture
Latin people are very proud of their heritage and culture. So, if you want to impress a Latina girl (and even make her fall in love with you), you need to demonstrate an interest in this part of her identity.
Make sure to do some research on her particular culture and traditions before your first date, and don’t hesitate to use your newly found knowledge!
Don’t force your wannabe-Spanish
Talking about charms, if languages are not your strong suit, please, please don’t try to force every Spanish word you picked up into your conversation.
While putting effort into learning her language can be a sign of how serious you are about the relationship, it’s better to do it on your own time. A Latina woman will eventually get tired of being your personal Google Translate.
Accept that she might perceive time differently
If you want to attract a Latina girl, there is a lot you will have to put up with. One of these things is the fact that many of them are constantly and almost pathologically late.
For your peace of mind and the sake of the relationship, you will have to learn to live with it. Try setting up the meetup a few minutes or even hours before you actually intend to have it – that way, she’ll be unwittingly on time. Win-win!
Avoid talking about the stereotypes
“Latina girls are loud and aggressive.” “Latina girls are sassy.” “Latina girls this, Latina girls that.” Trust me, she has heard it all, and it gets annoying fast!
Granted, there are several stereotypes with some factual backing in the general Latina culture. However, Latina girls dating foreigners do not appreciate being labeled a certain way without being given a chance to be their authentic selves.
So do not hit her with the “Is it true that Latina girls…” or “ I hear you girls really like…” statements. It will annoy her and significantly lower your chances of winning her over.
Treat her with respect
These women are strong and very self-confident. The quickest way to impress a Latina woman is through respect and by treating them as equals. If you try to cut her down to size, you will fail miserably. Instead, appreciate all the fieriness and learn to adapt to it if that’s not something you are used to.
Don’t be afraid to show emotion
As a western man, you’ve probably been taught that showing emotions is a sign of weakness, and the only way to be “manly” is to be tough. You may even come from a background where any sign of emotional vulnerability was punished as bad behavior.
Though Latino men have been brought up in a very “macho” environment, they have learned from an early age that showing emotion is healthy and necessary for a relationship to thrive.
This means Latin women expect their men to be in touch with their feelings and able to express their needs. Latin American girls prefer to discuss any issues openly and without reserve, so be ready for some tough conversations.
Make an effort to get to know her family
Family means a lot in the Latino culture, and Latin women dating foreigners certainly appreciate the effort their partners make to get to know their families.
Of course, no one will expect you to ask to meet their mom or second cousin after that first date. However, as you get closer, make efforts to get to know more about them, whether it is by meeting some of the family members or asking about them.
Don’t talk bad about the people she loves
Now that we have mentioned family, never, under no circumstances, badmouth the people she loves (yes, friends are considered family too), especially if you are in the early stages of the relationship.
Don’t call them loud or rude. A Latina woman will probably take that personally as being loud and outspoken is part of the Latin culture. Trust us, it’s more about heritage than insensitivity.
Do not rush her into anything sexual
Latina girls are very sensual, but this doesn’t mean that they are in any way of loose morals. Do not put any pressure on her to get intimate if she has not expressed similar intent. You might end up offending her and ultimately losing her! Instead, build up the passion and physical connection slowly until she is more comfortable with you.
Understand they are not all the same
No, LatinX doesn’t only mean Mexican or Colombian. The South American continent is big and extremely diverse in cultures and languages (yes, Spanish is common but far from being the only language spoken by LatinX people).
Assuming that all Latina women share the same background and heritage may get you in trouble. Your chances at winning her heart will grow significantly if you show some interest in her roots and traditions. Don’t be ignorant!
The Stages of Dating a Latina
There are certain things that anyone dating a beautiful Latina woman will almost inevitably go through. Of course, everyone’s experience will be somewhat different, but you will most likely end up going through the same stages of dating a Latina girl that everyone else does.
To give you a better understanding of what to expect here’s what being involved romantically with a Latina Mamacita looks like.
Stage #1 – Ooh la la! I like what I see!
The beauty that is a Latina woman is undeniable. Whether you get a leggy blonde from Brazil or a curvy tanned belle with wavy brunette locks from Chile, you will be attracted to them. What’s more, their personalities and values match this physical beauty, making them even more desirable!
Stage #2 – Better show her that confident side
Latinas are all about everything bold — they exude confidence, and they sure look for it in a man. Of course, don’t pretend to be someone you are not – especially if you are not a natural-born alpha male – because she will be onto your lies in no time. Show her that you have the nerve to be with a confident woman and fight for her love!
Stage #3 – That was one heck of a first date
First dates in Latin America are almost always lively. None of that boring (but still sweet and romantic) candlelight dinner lifestyle. You will probably go out dancing, attend a nighttime street carnival, go to the beach, take a hike, or participate in one of the many things to do in Latin America. Whatever it is, it will be memorable. So if your idea sucks, then let her give some input.
Stage #4 – There’s more to her than sass
Contrary to popular belief, Latina women are not always firecrackers ready to go off at you at any moment. Granted, they are pretty outspoken and strong, which might be intimidating. However, there is a soft feminine princess within every sassy queen. One of the signs a Hispanic girl likes you is when they let this vulnerable little girl out. It shows that they feel safe and comfortable with you.
Stage #5 – This Google translate thing won’t work
The language barrier is always a major challenge when dating a Latina woman. At first, you will use apps and online services to translate your text messages and sometimes live conversations. However, a time will come when this will become a frustrating hindrance to your bonding sessions. It is unfortunate but inevitable.
Stage #6 – Hablo un poco de español ahora
When you get to this stage, this will not need any translating. However, if you haven’t gotten to stage one yet, the statement means, “I speak a little Spanish now.” If you are serious about your relationship, then you will invest in learning the language. It will make it a lot easier for you to communicate.
Stage #7 – Wait, what? Did you say family barbecue?
Yep, this is a stage when dating a Latina woman. It doesn’t always have to be a barbecue; it could be a cousin’s quinceañera, a friend’s wedding, or any other gathering that brings the family together. South American women are very family-oriented, and it is not unusual in Latino dating culture to be introduced to them early on.
Stage #8 – Wow, I could get used to this
The honeymoon phase with Latina women is an out-of-body experience. You get to learn so much about them and their culture, taste her delicious authentic food, listen to that melodic accent, and watch her dance whenever you want. That is going to be the best part of it all.
Stage #9 – This international dating thing is hard
The honeymoon phase is not forever. A time will come where, as with any other relationship, you will start experiencing challenges. The fact that it is an international relationship will only make it harder. Everything from cultural differences to geographical separation will take its toll on the relationship. But be sure to check these tips for dating foreigners and our best international dating tips.
Stage #10 – Time to make those big decisions
With the goo-goo eyes rubbed clear by the realities of life, you will have to make some pretty important decisions. Where is the relationship headed? Is it long-term? Will one of you have to move? These are the kind of questions that you will have to answer. Everyone goes through it, and with all the success stories with Latina women, you might not have to worry too much. Just be honest and open.
It goes without saying that Latina women are a real catch as far as love and romance are concerned. Of course, you will have to put in the work if you want to attract them and get them interested. Fortunately, you have our insider tips for how to get a Latina to fall in love with you to get you started on the right foot!
As for the stages of dating a Latina girl on AmoLatina or other Latin dating apps, you honestly have to get into it to see for yourself. Don’t freak out and assume that your relationship will be boring and predictable. No Latina chica would ever let this happen! Just be open and let loose, and you will see just how different every relationship here is despite the above-discussed similarities.