Crossing the line
There is a very fine line between harmless fun and hurtful infidelity when it comes to maintaining online dating relationships. Given the relatively new nature of these platforms, many people are still unclear on whether it’s ok to maintain active profiles while in committed relationships.
Maybe you are currently in a similar situation where you still have your online dating account despite being in a serious partnership. You might be asking yourself whether you should shut it down and focus on your real-life relationship. After all, what harm is there in popping in every once in a while to see who you’ve matched with for an ego boost? The answer is a lot – a whole lot of harm. Here is a little more on why people do it and why it is not exactly the best idea.
Why do people even do it?
So why do people do it? What would make you want to have that cake and still eat it? The reasons vary from person to person. Maybe you like the attention. It could be that you get more from multiple flirty interactions that you do form your committed partner. It all depends on who you are and what you want. However, there are a few reasons that pretty much cut across the boat for most people who choose to walk both paths. Here is why they do it.
Sometimes you want to know what is out there. The environment around you has probably become somewhat monotonous and too familiar. Maintaining an active online presence means that you get to see what is available without necessarily having to act on it.
You are at home all alone and bored, and you choose to set up an account and get swiping just to pass the time. A lot of these situations start out this innocently and blow up into major scandals especially if your partner or even online flirt companions find out.
You may also be doing it just for fun. There is no denying the thrill that finding a match online gives you. It is, therefore, no wonder that so many people keep coming back for that ego boost and adrenaline high that the whole experience provides.
Why you shouldn’t have your cake and eat it too
1. It flares up insecurity
If your partner is insecure about herself or your depth of affection, then this would be like pouring gas onto a raging fire. It makes them feel like they are not enough which is something you never want someone you love to feel.
2. It could destroy hard-earned trust
Some partners react by getting angry and losing trust in you. It could take a long time to build bridges and get back to where you were. That is why it is not worth it.
3. It makes you discontent
Knowing that there is something seemingly better out there makes you less appreciative of what you have. Unfortunately, most people learn too late that what they already had was pretty awesome.
4. It shows a lack of complete commitment
If you are still out and about chatting up sexy singles then you, my friend, are not ready to settle down. Do yourself and your partner a favor and end things. That way you get to figure out what you want without having to drag some poor and innocent soul into your emotional shenanigans.
5. There is more temptation than you can probably handle
You might think that you are the strongest and most self-controlled person on the planet but trust me you are a match for the internet. Somehow these forbidden fruits have a way of making people in the relationship feel the need to cheat. It will be fun at the moment, but reality will come to bite you in the bum soon after.
There is no denying the fact that maintaining an active online dating website while in a relationship is never a good idea. It is pretty much setting up your relationship to failure by introducing toxic dynamics like insecurity and mistrust.
So when you find someone and you are ready to get serious then do them a favor and deactivate all your online dating profiles. It shows that you are ready to focus and put in serious effort to make things work which will leave you with a happy and healthy relationship.