9 Harsh Realities of Online Dating in 2019

Dating Tips / Monday, October 1st, 2018

Everyone is into online dating these days, and it isn’t so hard to see why with all the happy endings. However, these platforms hold more than just promises of eternal love. They are chock full of unfortunate realities that you need to prepare yourself for. That way nothing, good or bad, will surprise you while on your journey to find love on the internet.

Below are nine negative aspects of online dating

It doesn’t always work out

You will meet a lot of interesting characters while online dating. You will like a lot of them. You will fall in love with some of them. However, the truth is that not all of the relationships that you choose to invest in will work out. That doesn’t mean that you have failed at life or that you are destined to be alone forever. It just means that you haven’t met the right one yet and there is still some hope.

There are plenty of ghost profiles

Many people create and abandon online dating profiles. You might be unfortunate enough to fall for what you see on one of these profiles only to find out that the person is no longer online. You might also end up being the victim of “ghosting.” Ghosting is the term to describe a situation where someone you’ve been talking to for a while suddenly disappears. Unfortunately, the only thing to do when this happens is to brush yourself off and move on.

There are plenty of creepy people

The online dating community is full of unusual characters. We don’t mean the quirky and lovable weirdoes with unconventional interests. We are talking about real creepy people whose intentions on these platforms may not always be the best. They include perverts, stalkers, and even scammers.

Not all is always as it seems

That applies mainly to the dating profiles you get to see. You might think someone is perfect based on their photos and personal description. They are drop dead gorgeous and have pretty cool interests. However, it is important to remember that this is just the tip of the iceberg. Before you go falling head over heels, take your time to get to know the person and find out what more they have to offer.

It promotes superficial attitudes

Online dating brings out the worst in you in that it promotes shallowness. After all, isn’t it just a tad bit superficial to choose to talk to someone based entirely on looks? However, this is not the worst thing as even with offline dating physical attraction plays a very important role in you determining who to engage.

Not everyone you’ll like will like you

Be ready for rejection because it is inevitable in online dating. You might end up liking someone only to find out they want nothing to do with you. The most important thing is to remember that there is nothing wrong with you. It just isn’t a good match.

Old dating rules are just weightless suggestions

Remember the gender roles and exclusivity rules with traditional dating setups? Online dating completely disregards them. The only faithfully followed rule is to follow your heart.

It’s a liar-liar-pants-on-fire world out there

You need to have your bullshit radar turned on when venturing into online dating as there are many liars out there. People will lie about everything from their identities to the reasons their past relationship ended.

Therefore, do not be too quick to trust anyone based simply on what they tell you.

Not all singles are actually single

Unfortunately, not everyone signed up for online dating is actually single. You might find yourself falling for someone who is married in real life. It is not very common, but it is not entirely unheard of. One of the best ways to figure out that someone is trying to fool you is by keeping an eye out for suspicious behavior and red flags. It is also important to move the date offline and when the time is right to meet friends and family. If you are feeling extra paranoid and you have invested a lot emotionally, there is nothing wrong with going all psycho and hiring a PI to confirm you are the only one in his/her life.


These nine are just a few of the many bitter truths that you need to brace yourself for with online dating. The good news is that despite all these pitfalls love thrives. So do not think that a few catfish profiles and pathological liars are all that the world has to offer. Be extra careful who you trust, and you should be just fine.