Not Getting Any Responses in Online Dating? Here’s How to Fix This

Dating Tips / Saturday, September 1st, 2018

You know that awkward moment when you text someone you matched with online, and you get no response? You can literally (not really) see the tumbleweeds rolling across your screen. For the most part, this ghosting happens as a result of something you may have done wrong.

So here are 7 of the main mistakes that will leave you talking to yourself online. The good news is that for every mistake there is a super easy way to make things right. Here it goes.

1. Your profile just isn’t that good

With online dating, first impressions mean everything. Every time someone receives a text or email from you the first thing they will do is check your profile. If you have a bad photo on your profile, then you shouldn’t expect responses. A bad picture can mean a lot of things including flashy displays of your lifestyle, shirtless pictures, unflattering selfies and much more.

If you also happen to have washed up profile bios about how you love long walks on the beach, then you should also expect zero messages in your inbox. Put some effort into both of these, and you will see results in no time.

2. Boring starter emails/texts

Another first impression that could be ruining your chances of finding love is the initial contact. How did you hit him/her up? Did you go with something boring like “Hi” or “How are you”? If that’s how you chose to start things, then it is most likely the reason why you still haven’t received a reply.

Remember there are many fish in this online dating sea. And most of them are using the same old boring initial messages. If you want to increase your chances of success, make an effort to stand out with a unique message. In this case, you can never really go wrong making a comment to show your interest in something they included in their profile.

3. Cliché pickup lines

There is a very fine line between tacky and cute when it comes to pickup lines with online dating. If you have heard it before, then you probably shouldn’t be using it. It can and most likely will cost you a steady correspondence with your online love interest. To be on the safe side, simply avoid these lines altogether; cliché or not.

4. Being too forward too soon

It is important for you to be open when online dating but you must learn the importance of perfect timing. If you come on too strong, then you will be left hanging for sure. Take a girl or guy through some light conversation first before you start confessing your love and promising marriage.

5. The big O: Objectification

Another fine line in online dating exists between complements and rude comments. That is the one line you do not want to cross if you want your matches to respond. It is ok to like her body, or her hair or her smile. There is nothing wrong about drooling over those abs or that sexy man bun. However, including such comments in your texts or emails as you start talking will get you ghosted faster than you can say, love. It sends the wrong message especially to users who are there seriously looking for love.

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6. Too much small talk

No one ever in the history of humanity has enjoyed small talk. Your online date is not the exception here. It gets boring and exhausting pretty fast, and most people prefer to leave the conversation than to carry on. You do not have to go into a deep talk on philosophies of life and major scientific theories. Just find something that is interesting to both of you and focus on that. And unless you are both meteorologists, the weather should not be featured here.

7. You are a late-replier

Sometimes, people leave you hanging because you left them hanging first. If you got a text at noon on Tuesday and replied a week later, then it is entirely your fault that your match returned the favor. The solution here is simple; just respond promptly. And if you are busy let them know and pick things up when you have more time on your hands.

Give it another go

Now that you know what to do and what not to do, you should have your phone blowing up with text replies from all your matches. Just remember to be yourself, trust the process and have fun.